I came across this post by Dave Gibbons in Relevant Magazine and found it very “relevant” in our understanding of the Jesus story. For many years I just did the 1-2 -1 – 2 Cycle and never understood the value of actually embracing my wounds, my shame, my sin and sitting in the mess of it long enough for God to heal me. My pastor told me something I will never forget “repentance is not a prayer you pray in a moment but the long walk of obedience”. I encourage you to move past repentance to a place of experiencing transformation.

May you live death and resurrection for it is the way of God!

Five ways to come to terms with your scars.

Pain is a bitter pill to swallow. Who wants to feel the sting of failure or the overwhelming hurt of brokenness in our relationships?

And when pain inevitably comes, our response is fairly predictable—we complain, run away and get depressed. Sometimes we turn our pain outward to others and become abusive. Often, we turn inward and beat ourselves up, repeating lies that eventually become our truth and de?ne our fragmented reality.

Learning to embrace our pain is a process that I describe as the “pain continuum.” The pain continuum helps us understand how we usually cope with our pain and gives us insight that can lead to maturity and growth.

Stage 1: Covering

The initial stage of the continuum occurs when we ?rst experience pain. Pain is the natural repercussion of dealing with our brokenness. Our immediate response to this type of pain is to deny it. Even if we are forced to acknowledge what is happening, we seek a way of avoiding the pain. Some people never get past this stage. They live in an unhealthy state of denial. The pain only worsens. Certainly, it can be numbed at times, but it?s never truly better. A person living in denial falls prey to a constant dullness of heart, leading a disengaged life, and avoiding choices and commitments that might lead to additional episodes of brokenness. Eventually life becomes a work of projecting a false self. This just adds more stress.

When we act in a way that is different from what we know is honest, we lack power in our lives. We can fool people, but our voices lack resonance. Over time, this leads us to hide who we are and cover up our weaknesses. Just like Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, we are no longer comfortable being transparent in the light of God?s truth, and we respond to our pain by hiding and covering. A dissonance rises between what we say and who we really know we are.

Stage 2: Confession

Sometimes, though, people come to a place of recognizing that something is wrong with their lives. They are able to admit that not all is right. Biblically, the act of confession is when we come to agree with God about our issues: our sins and all the ways in which we?ve missed the mark. When we agree with God, we take the ?rst step toward exiting the rut of denial. Since our failure is constant, confession becomes part of the normal rhythm of those who follow Jesus.

The temptation for most of us is to stop growing at the moment of confession. We confess our failure or the pains others have caused us. We ask God to take the pain away, hoping for instant transformation and healing. But as we struggle with the wounds others have inflicted or our own addictions, whether to alcohol or drugs, or to materialism, money and worldly success, we must recount that we are weak and that change is rarely instantaneous.

Stage 3: Embrace

The stage of embrace is what enables a person to take responsibility for his or her sin and to see failure and healing as an integral part of the growth process. Along with our positive attributes and gifts, we also have scars that de?ne who we are. In this stage, an individual accepts shortcomings and the fact that he or she desperately needs grace.

To be clear: the movement toward embrace is not a tacit “oh well,” a casual acceptance of our sins. Embracing our broken humanity is not an attempt to solve our sin problem or forever end the pain. Instead, it?s about living in the tension of our ongoing brokenness and at the same time the good news of our position as children of God.

In fact, as we mature in our faith, we grow more sensitive to our weaknesses, to the things that we once ignored or paid little attention to. As we draw closer to the light, our scars are more noticeable. Perhaps this is what the apostle Paul was thinking when he described himself as the “worst of sinners” in his letter to Timothy. The more Paul became aware of God?s goodness, the more he became aware of his own failures. Paul understood and managed the tension between his identity as a child of God—saved by grace—and his ongoing struggle with sin.

Stage 4: Guide

As we learn to recognize our scars as gifts, they eventually become guides for our lives. Too often, we are motivated by our strengths. We run toward the things we are good at. We avoid the things we aren?t good at. We attempt to ignore our more noticeable character defects. Yet as we begin to appreciate God?s shaping hand in our lives, we become grateful for His molding our character through pain. In the process, we discover our true calling, the way of the cross. Our pain and weakness become the pillars that God uses as a platform, a place where we can stand and speak into the lives of others.

Nehemiah, the heroic rebuilder of the walls of Jerusalem, found his purpose through devastation. His vision grew out of his deep sorrow over the destruction of his city. God used his pain to redirect his life. Nehemiah returned to Jerusalem, a place of destruction and failure, and became the leader of the rebuilding effort. As he addressed his own pain, God illuminated his destiny.

Stage 5: Gift

The next stage of maturation occurs when our perspective on pain changes. In this stage, we allow the Holy Spirit to redeem our pain for the sake of the greater good. Our pain keeps us humble and dependent on the Lord.

I have also experienced the perfecting power of pain. God has shaped me through some of my most obvious abnormalities and struggles: the challenge of my multiracial roots, being a minority, witnessing my parents? divorce, my mom?s sudden death, failures in the workplace, and broken relationships with my wife, my children, my church, and my friends. These experiences have taught me that God uses all of our story—the pain and struggle—to advance His Kingdom.

Another aspect of this maturation is that when we connect with others in community, we discover that it is our particular pain, not our strengths, that enables others to relate to us most intimately. Pain, in this sense, becomes God?s gift to us. We all want to make a difference in the world. We all want to connect with others in some way. Pain is the common ground God gives us to meet people, regardless of their cultural background or personal history. People can understand the pain of disappointment, of loss, of failure.

St. Augustine writes, “In my deepest wound, I see your glory, and it dazzles me.”

Our pain becomes the scars for people to see the healing power of our great God. Not only does He heal; He transforms what could have destroyed us. – Dave Gibbons

Will change ever happen?  Can a person ever be whole again?  The answer is YES!  The process doesn’t happen over night but there is hope.  Often times the pain we feel and go through is exactly what God uses in our lives to help others.  You are not alone in your pain, there are others too who are walking a similar path and there is One who can heal you of your pain.  Are you hurting today?  There is hope.  Listen to what Psalm 40:1-3 says,

“I waited patiently for the Lord to help me,
and he turned to me and heard my cry.
² He lifted me out of the pit of despair,
out of the mud and the mire.
He set my feet on solid ground
and steadied me as I walked along.
³ He has given me a new song to sing,
a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see what he has done and be amazed.
They will put their trust in the Lord.”

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I am very thankful for Daniel Kirk and his understanding of scripture. As I read this post this morning something was awakened in my soul…  Maybe because I grew up with a very charismatic understanding of faith where faith was the way to own larger houses and look like you had it all together. The last sentence hit me Believing into Christ means faithfulness to the Christian story, a lived faithfulness that puts that story on display in our own communities, our own lives. In any healthy relationship love does not look like big gifts(and I love gifts), getting what I think I need… Faithfulness is the true response to love!

One of the most important debates in NT scholarship for the past 30 years or so has been the interpretation of the Greek phrase ?????? ??????? (pistis christou; “the faith of Christ”).

Basically, it comes down to this: is Paul talking about “faith in Christ” (objective genitive) or “the faithfulness of Christ” (subjective genitive) when he uses this phrase?

In this case, “faithfulness of Christ” would mean Jesus’ faithfulness in going to the cross.

Can pistis mean “faithfulness”?

The answer is decidedly, “Yes.”

In fact, the most unequivocal use of pistis in the book of Romans is one in which it clearly means “faithfulness” rather than faith, and is used in a “subjective genitive” construction.

In Rom 3:3, Paul is reflecting on the “faithlessness” of some who did not believe the gospel. He contrasts this with the faithfulness of God. “Their faithlessness cannot nullify the faithfulness of God, can it?”

Faithfulness of God is the English rendering of ??? ?????? ??? ???? (ten pistin tou theou; “the faith of God”).

Might this help with the conversation we’ve been having here since the end of last week?

The starting question was what we do with final judgment based on works within a system of theology that strongly emphasizes justification (initial judgment?) based on faith.

On Saturday I suggested that we rethink “faith in Christ” as “faithing into Christ,” or “believing unto union with Christ.”

Today I want to raise the question of whether thinking in terms of “faithfulness” might better capture what Paul is after than our normal idea of “belief”?

In order for this to work, we’ll have to rethink the faith versus works contrast. In Romans and Galatians, there are particular works that Paul is eager to deny are at the heart of justification–those that define Jewish people as a particular set-apart people; works that indicate conversion to Judaism as such.

No, says Paul, Gentiles don’t have to become Jewish. Faithing into Christ is enough.

Within this framework, Paul’s claim in Romans 1 makes much more sense. The goal of his ministry is to bring about “the obedience of faith” or, “faithful obedience” among the Gentiles.

Not faith alone, but an obedient faithfulness to the gospel of Jesus Christ.

If we are saved by Christ’s faithfulness in going to death on the cross for us, perhaps our part in continuing the story is to respond with a Christ-shaped faithfulness of our own.

Believing into Christ means faithfulness to the Christian story, a lived faithfulness that puts that story on display in our own communities, our own lives.

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